Adoption is a beautiful, beautiful thing for about 1,000 different reasons. There is a law firm in Indianapolis that is well-known in the adoption law arena (Kirsh & Kirsh – check them out!). They routinely post pictures on their office’s Facebook page – some pictures are little feet meaning a consent to adoption form has been signed … and some are of happy individuals/couples on the adoption hearing day … and some of birth parents, adopted child(ren), and adoptive parents being reunited. In a sometimes-dark world, these picture can boost about anyone’s mood. You can feel the happiness, joy, and love excreting out of the pictures!
In the moment, it’s probably hard to get off of Cloud Nine. Though, it is important to consider the harsh realities that life may bring. That is, you go through the adoption process and then something happens. Like, you get in a car accident and become incapacitated or you tragically pass away. Yes, it is important to name who has the ability and authority to step in as Power of Attorney, Health Care Representative, or Executor … for you. Though, many young families that I work with are primarily concerned with the kid(s) – i.e. What happens to them if something happens to me?
It is fair to say that adoption is a journey. I talked to a dear friend who has adopted and she explained it to be the “most difficult, emotional, God-sent, beautiful adventure that we have ever embarked on.” It is certainly not the most pleasant thing to think about, discuss, and make decisions about estate planning – but it is absolutely vital, especially when there are unique circumstances. If you do not do it for yourself, do it for them. Estate planning does not have to be a difficult, time-consuming, costly venture. In fact, I would argue that the failure to plan may only make things more difficult, more time-consuming, and more costly should something happen to you. The “gift” of creating your estate plan … could very well be the most important gift you ever give to them.
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Jennifer Rozelle, JD